Sometimes it just doesn't work out

Ok, I have been away for a while. I've dated a couple guys in the time I haven't written.  One was a very nice guy but was still hung up on his ex and was very angry about the divorce.  I'm not sure exactly why he was even trying to date - maybe to forget? to get on with his life?  well, he was failing miserably. 
We went out about 5 times, and it was as if he was scared to death of me.  He really had some major hang up's.  My daughter-in-law says it only takes one woman to ruin a man forever - guess he found his.

The next guy was a very special guy.  He was very attractive; smart, funny, and made me feel very special.  We just didn't work out.  That's all I have to say about that.

I actually removed my profile from the sites for a while - just needed to regroup - but I'm back and really having fun.

But then there are the 70-80yr olds ...

Guy # 3

Ok, I have promised for a while to tell you about #3.  The 3rd guy who contacted me is a big guy, I mean really big; rides a Harley, looks mean and tough, and I'm not quite sure why I responded to his "flirt"-he lives in north Alabama and maybe that is why - he is hours away.  After e-mailing back and forth for a couple days, I went back to look at his profile - yep, still just a little scary looking.  Still, he was the nicest guy I had conversed with (what exactly do you call it? it's not a conversation, it's typing). 
One day, he was commenting on how nasty the weather was and I said it was beautiful here and he argued a little with me and then I told him I was in south Alabama. 
Haven't heard from him since.
Shucks, he really was a nice guy.
Oh well, on to other stories.

It's Not All Bad!

I have painted a picture of failure.  It's not all bad.  I am enjoying meeting and talking with some very nice, very smart guys.  Some I have met and it just didn't go any where but it was just a matter of nothing in common. 
I will continue to visit the sites and have a little fun along the way.
Oh yes, Guy # 3 - next post

23 yrs old? you have got to be kidding

I was online recently on one of the websites I visit when this instant message pops up.  The guy was 23 years old  (It was about 10:30pm and I was kind of wondering if it was past his bedtime).  He wanted to chat - started off "hi" so I said hi back.  Then asked a somewhat inappropriate question - not real bad but...so I wrote back that I wasn't interested in anyone his age.  His response was "what difference did age make- age is just a number".  I told him that my children are older than him and I once again got the "age is just a number and it really doesn't matter".  I told him that it did in this case and to have a good night.  I had to close out of that site to get rid of the kid.
Like I mentioned earlier, you should have lived Janice Joplin, Bonanza, and the Viet Nam war if I'm gonna even think about chatting with you.
23 years old?  you have got to be kidding...I have already raised my kid.

I get it!

Remember Guy #1?  You know, I wrote about him earlier..."being the first guy I'd dated after my divorce  was too much pressure"?  Ok, I recently met a newly divorced guy and I was the first person he had dated.  Kinda freaked me out - had to have the "not ready for anything serious" talk.
I guess I was too hard on Guy # 1. 
I finally get it!   

FRAGILE - handle with care!

As I am corresponding with guys from these online dating sites and meeting them, I have come to realize that men have very fragile egos.  It only takes one woman to totally screw a man up - FOREVER!. 
Ladies, please be considerate when dumping your guy - he may never recover.

Guy # 2

Ok, this is the one you've been waiting on.  Guy # 2.  This guy contacted me first and as I mentioned, according to his pic and profile was ok in the looks department; was supposed to be educated; but couldn't spell worth spit.  We e-mailed for several days and it just about drove me nuts!  I was forever correcting his spelling and grammar (in my mind). 
After several days of attempting to read his e-mails, he asked me to call  him and gave me his number (I did not give out mine).  After another two or three days, I thought, ok not everyone can spell and I really shouldn't hold that against him so I decided to call while on my lunch break. 
When he answered the phone, I identified myself and stated that we had been e-mailing. He seemed somewhat confused for a second before realizing who I was.  After making the mental connection (his) he asked me "do you cook?"  I was somewhat taken aback and didn't answer right away - so he asked again.  I replied that no, I didn't do much cooking anymore unless my children asked for something special.  I lived alone and so I didn't take the time to cook.  He stated that he was "looking for someone who knew how to cook".  So I said ok, I do know how to cook and that seafood gumbo was my speciality.  To which he replied, "I don't eat seafood - that is some nasty stuff".  (first strike against him- or maybe we are up to 3 already and I'm being generous.)
Are you ready for more?  Well, he commenced to tell me that he was not looking for someone who was looking for a 24/7 kind of guy - the woman he was looking for had to understand that he just couldn't be there every minute she needed something.  She needed to be able to look out for herself; that he wasn't a handyman.  (I just about laughed in his face). 
I very nicely told him that I basically took care of myself and that if there was something I couldn't handle I had family who would take care of anything I needed.
At this point, I was wondering how to get off the phone - "what the heck was this guy thinking?"  I told him I had arrived back at the office and needed to go.  As I sat there in a kind of shock, I couldn't decide if I should laugh or I didn't know what.
The next day I had an e-mail from him.  "Call me back; don't stop now!" 
The man is certifiable.  Needless to say I am glad I did not give out my phone number and no, I did not call him back.  I didn't even e-mail him again.
I wonder if he ever questioned what he had done wrong - probably not.

Then there is guy # 3 - the biker dude...