It's Not All Bad!

I have painted a picture of failure.  It's not all bad.  I am enjoying meeting and talking with some very nice, very smart guys.  Some I have met and it just didn't go any where but it was just a matter of nothing in common. 
I will continue to visit the sites and have a little fun along the way.
Oh yes, Guy # 3 - next post

23 yrs old? you have got to be kidding

I was online recently on one of the websites I visit when this instant message pops up.  The guy was 23 years old  (It was about 10:30pm and I was kind of wondering if it was past his bedtime).  He wanted to chat - started off "hi" so I said hi back.  Then asked a somewhat inappropriate question - not real bad but...so I wrote back that I wasn't interested in anyone his age.  His response was "what difference did age make- age is just a number".  I told him that my children are older than him and I once again got the "age is just a number and it really doesn't matter".  I told him that it did in this case and to have a good night.  I had to close out of that site to get rid of the kid.
Like I mentioned earlier, you should have lived Janice Joplin, Bonanza, and the Viet Nam war if I'm gonna even think about chatting with you.
23 years old?  you have got to be kidding...I have already raised my kid.

I get it!

Remember Guy #1?  You know, I wrote about him earlier..."being the first guy I'd dated after my divorce  was too much pressure"?  Ok, I recently met a newly divorced guy and I was the first person he had dated.  Kinda freaked me out - had to have the "not ready for anything serious" talk.
I guess I was too hard on Guy # 1. 
I finally get it!   

FRAGILE - handle with care!

As I am corresponding with guys from these online dating sites and meeting them, I have come to realize that men have very fragile egos.  It only takes one woman to totally screw a man up - FOREVER!. 
Ladies, please be considerate when dumping your guy - he may never recover.

Guy # 2

Ok, this is the one you've been waiting on.  Guy # 2.  This guy contacted me first and as I mentioned, according to his pic and profile was ok in the looks department; was supposed to be educated; but couldn't spell worth spit.  We e-mailed for several days and it just about drove me nuts!  I was forever correcting his spelling and grammar (in my mind). 
After several days of attempting to read his e-mails, he asked me to call  him and gave me his number (I did not give out mine).  After another two or three days, I thought, ok not everyone can spell and I really shouldn't hold that against him so I decided to call while on my lunch break. 
When he answered the phone, I identified myself and stated that we had been e-mailing. He seemed somewhat confused for a second before realizing who I was.  After making the mental connection (his) he asked me "do you cook?"  I was somewhat taken aback and didn't answer right away - so he asked again.  I replied that no, I didn't do much cooking anymore unless my children asked for something special.  I lived alone and so I didn't take the time to cook.  He stated that he was "looking for someone who knew how to cook".  So I said ok, I do know how to cook and that seafood gumbo was my speciality.  To which he replied, "I don't eat seafood - that is some nasty stuff".  (first strike against him- or maybe we are up to 3 already and I'm being generous.)
Are you ready for more?  Well, he commenced to tell me that he was not looking for someone who was looking for a 24/7 kind of guy - the woman he was looking for had to understand that he just couldn't be there every minute she needed something.  She needed to be able to look out for herself; that he wasn't a handyman.  (I just about laughed in his face). 
I very nicely told him that I basically took care of myself and that if there was something I couldn't handle I had family who would take care of anything I needed.
At this point, I was wondering how to get off the phone - "what the heck was this guy thinking?"  I told him I had arrived back at the office and needed to go.  As I sat there in a kind of shock, I couldn't decide if I should laugh or I didn't know what.
The next day I had an e-mail from him.  "Call me back; don't stop now!" 
The man is certifiable.  Needless to say I am glad I did not give out my phone number and no, I did not call him back.  I didn't even e-mail him again.
I wonder if he ever questioned what he had done wrong - probably not.

Then there is guy # 3 - the biker dude...

Vanity, Caution and The One Date Wonder

Ok, I think I have mentioned that I am vain - I want to date a guy who looks good; has taken care of himself. 
When I first started looking on-line,(kinda sounds like shopping for an item doesn't it) I was amazed at some of the pictures - some of these guys did not put their best photos on the website (or shudder to think... they did). 

I was and still am somewhat shy about making the first contact - I know my friends are shaking their heads saying "what?" but it's true.  In my day, the guy made the first move.

My first day on line, I had three guys contact me (my observations are based on their profiles). 
Guy # 1- very attractive, sexy, educated, and could spell (for some reason spelling is very important to me). (true to his profile)
Guy # 2 - ok in the looks department, said he was educated, couldn't spell worth a flip (that bothered me -we'll get to him later).
Guy # 3- was a real biker dude - in looks, dress, and the pics of his harley, a little scary looking but came across as a big teddy bear (he still does).

Guy #1- Decided it would be a good idea to e-mail for a while before going out so we e-mailed - he made it very plain to me that he was not looking for marriage and had every intention of staying single FOREVER!  Once I convinced him I felt the same way, we met for coffee and that was it.  I didn't hear anything else from him.  I was a little confused, couldn't quite understand what I had said or done wrong. So, I decided to e-mail one more time and basically told him I had enjoyed meeting him and that if he would like to make contact, I'd enjoy hearing from him.
He thought he had done or said something wrong and was glad that I had e-mailed him.  We continued e-mailing and decided to go to dinner.  Those were some of the funniest e-mails!  I wish I could share them with you but ...
I will honestly say, I have never had a better time in my life!  He was funny, attentive, courteous, the perfect gentleman, and down right fun.  We went to dinner and talked about anything and everything - seemed to have a good deal in common -and then he took me to this dive Irish pub and we threw darts - something I had never done before!  He was very competitive and I was lousy at darts.
However, I guess I really messed up because I was too honest (something else that is extremely important to me).  He asked me how many dates I had gone on since my divorce.  He was my first date in over 35years- guess I shouldn't have told him.  According to him, it freaked him out!  Said the idea of being the first guy I'd dated since my divorce was too much pressure.  Come on...I was separated for 4 years and divorced for one.  Well, I'm not sure what he thought or expected but he was a one date wonder.  His Loss.
(Please feel free to leave me comments and explain what I am missing - what did his being my first date after the divorce have to do with anything?)

Oh well, moving right along to Guy # 2 - that's another post.