Ok, I have been away for a while. I've dated a couple guys in the time I haven't written. One was a very nice guy but was still hung up on his ex and was very angry about the divorce. I'm not sure exactly why he was even trying to date - maybe to forget? to get on with his life? well, he was failing miserably.
We went out about 5 times, and it was as if he was scared to death of me. He really had some major hang up's. My daughter-in-law says it only takes one woman to ruin a man forever - guess he found his.
The next guy was a very special guy. He was very attractive; smart, funny, and made me feel very special. We just didn't work out. That's all I have to say about that.
I actually removed my profile from the sites for a while - just needed to regroup - but I'm back and really having fun.
But then there are the 70-80yr olds ...
Friday, June 11, 2010
Guy # 3
Ok, I have promised for a while to tell you about #3. The 3rd guy who contacted me is a big guy, I mean really big; rides a Harley, looks mean and tough, and I'm not quite sure why I responded to his "flirt"-he lives in north Alabama and maybe that is why - he is hours away. After e-mailing back and forth for a couple days, I went back to look at his profile - yep, still just a little scary looking. Still, he was the nicest guy I had conversed with (what exactly do you call it? it's not a conversation, it's typing).
One day, he was commenting on how nasty the weather was and I said it was beautiful here and he argued a little with me and then I told him I was in south Alabama.
Haven't heard from him since.
Shucks, he really was a nice guy.
Oh well, on to other stories.
One day, he was commenting on how nasty the weather was and I said it was beautiful here and he argued a little with me and then I told him I was in south Alabama.
Haven't heard from him since.
Shucks, he really was a nice guy.
Oh well, on to other stories.
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
It's Not All Bad!
I have painted a picture of failure. It's not all bad. I am enjoying meeting and talking with some very nice, very smart guys. Some I have met and it just didn't go any where but it was just a matter of nothing in common.
I will continue to visit the sites and have a little fun along the way.
Oh yes, Guy # 3 - next post
I will continue to visit the sites and have a little fun along the way.
Oh yes, Guy # 3 - next post
23 yrs old? you have got to be kidding
I was online recently on one of the websites I visit when this instant message pops up. The guy was 23 years old (It was about 10:30pm and I was kind of wondering if it was past his bedtime). He wanted to chat - started off "hi" so I said hi back. Then asked a somewhat inappropriate question - not real bad but...so I wrote back that I wasn't interested in anyone his age. His response was "what difference did age make- age is just a number". I told him that my children are older than him and I once again got the "age is just a number and it really doesn't matter". I told him that it did in this case and to have a good night. I had to close out of that site to get rid of the kid.
Like I mentioned earlier, you should have lived Janice Joplin, Bonanza, and the Viet Nam war if I'm gonna even think about chatting with you.
23 years old? you have got to be kidding...I have already raised my kid.
Like I mentioned earlier, you should have lived Janice Joplin, Bonanza, and the Viet Nam war if I'm gonna even think about chatting with you.
23 years old? you have got to be kidding...I have already raised my kid.
Monday, March 8, 2010
I get it!
Remember Guy #1? You know, I wrote about him earlier..."being the first guy I'd dated after my divorce was too much pressure"? Ok, I recently met a newly divorced guy and I was the first person he had dated. Kinda freaked me out - had to have the "not ready for anything serious" talk.
I guess I was too hard on Guy # 1.
I finally get it!
I guess I was too hard on Guy # 1.
I finally get it!
Friday, March 5, 2010
FRAGILE - handle with care!
As I am corresponding with guys from these online dating sites and meeting them, I have come to realize that men have very fragile egos. It only takes one woman to totally screw a man up - FOREVER!.
Ladies, please be considerate when dumping your guy - he may never recover.
Ladies, please be considerate when dumping your guy - he may never recover.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Guy # 2
Ok, this is the one you've been waiting on. Guy # 2. This guy contacted me first and as I mentioned, according to his pic and profile was ok in the looks department; was supposed to be educated; but couldn't spell worth spit. We e-mailed for several days and it just about drove me nuts! I was forever correcting his spelling and grammar (in my mind).
After several days of attempting to read his e-mails, he asked me to call him and gave me his number (I did not give out mine). After another two or three days, I thought, ok not everyone can spell and I really shouldn't hold that against him so I decided to call while on my lunch break.
When he answered the phone, I identified myself and stated that we had been e-mailing. He seemed somewhat confused for a second before realizing who I was. After making the mental connection (his) he asked me "do you cook?" I was somewhat taken aback and didn't answer right away - so he asked again. I replied that no, I didn't do much cooking anymore unless my children asked for something special. I lived alone and so I didn't take the time to cook. He stated that he was "looking for someone who knew how to cook". So I said ok, I do know how to cook and that seafood gumbo was my speciality. To which he replied, "I don't eat seafood - that is some nasty stuff". (first strike against him- or maybe we are up to 3 already and I'm being generous.)
Are you ready for more? Well, he commenced to tell me that he was not looking for someone who was looking for a 24/7 kind of guy - the woman he was looking for had to understand that he just couldn't be there every minute she needed something. She needed to be able to look out for herself; that he wasn't a handyman. (I just about laughed in his face).
I very nicely told him that I basically took care of myself and that if there was something I couldn't handle I had family who would take care of anything I needed.
At this point, I was wondering how to get off the phone - "what the heck was this guy thinking?" I told him I had arrived back at the office and needed to go. As I sat there in a kind of shock, I couldn't decide if I should laugh or I didn't know what.
The next day I had an e-mail from him. "Call me back; don't stop now!"
The man is certifiable. Needless to say I am glad I did not give out my phone number and no, I did not call him back. I didn't even e-mail him again.
I wonder if he ever questioned what he had done wrong - probably not.
Then there is guy # 3 - the biker dude...
After several days of attempting to read his e-mails, he asked me to call him and gave me his number (I did not give out mine). After another two or three days, I thought, ok not everyone can spell and I really shouldn't hold that against him so I decided to call while on my lunch break.
When he answered the phone, I identified myself and stated that we had been e-mailing. He seemed somewhat confused for a second before realizing who I was. After making the mental connection (his) he asked me "do you cook?" I was somewhat taken aback and didn't answer right away - so he asked again. I replied that no, I didn't do much cooking anymore unless my children asked for something special. I lived alone and so I didn't take the time to cook. He stated that he was "looking for someone who knew how to cook". So I said ok, I do know how to cook and that seafood gumbo was my speciality. To which he replied, "I don't eat seafood - that is some nasty stuff". (first strike against him- or maybe we are up to 3 already and I'm being generous.)
Are you ready for more? Well, he commenced to tell me that he was not looking for someone who was looking for a 24/7 kind of guy - the woman he was looking for had to understand that he just couldn't be there every minute she needed something. She needed to be able to look out for herself; that he wasn't a handyman. (I just about laughed in his face).
I very nicely told him that I basically took care of myself and that if there was something I couldn't handle I had family who would take care of anything I needed.
At this point, I was wondering how to get off the phone - "what the heck was this guy thinking?" I told him I had arrived back at the office and needed to go. As I sat there in a kind of shock, I couldn't decide if I should laugh or I didn't know what.
The next day I had an e-mail from him. "Call me back; don't stop now!"
The man is certifiable. Needless to say I am glad I did not give out my phone number and no, I did not call him back. I didn't even e-mail him again.
I wonder if he ever questioned what he had done wrong - probably not.
Then there is guy # 3 - the biker dude...
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Vanity, Caution and The One Date Wonder
Ok, I think I have mentioned that I am vain - I want to date a guy who looks good; has taken care of himself.
When I first started looking on-line,(kinda sounds like shopping for an item doesn't it) I was amazed at some of the pictures - some of these guys did not put their best photos on the website (or shudder to think... they did).
I was and still am somewhat shy about making the first contact - I know my friends are shaking their heads saying "what?" but it's true. In my day, the guy made the first move.
My first day on line, I had three guys contact me (my observations are based on their profiles).
Guy # 1- very attractive, sexy, educated, and could spell (for some reason spelling is very important to me). (true to his profile)
Guy # 2 - ok in the looks department, said he was educated, couldn't spell worth a flip (that bothered me -we'll get to him later).
Guy # 3- was a real biker dude - in looks, dress, and the pics of his harley, a little scary looking but came across as a big teddy bear (he still does).
Guy #1- Decided it would be a good idea to e-mail for a while before going out so we e-mailed - he made it very plain to me that he was not looking for marriage and had every intention of staying single FOREVER! Once I convinced him I felt the same way, we met for coffee and that was it. I didn't hear anything else from him. I was a little confused, couldn't quite understand what I had said or done wrong. So, I decided to e-mail one more time and basically told him I had enjoyed meeting him and that if he would like to make contact, I'd enjoy hearing from him.
He thought he had done or said something wrong and was glad that I had e-mailed him. We continued e-mailing and decided to go to dinner. Those were some of the funniest e-mails! I wish I could share them with you but ...
I will honestly say, I have never had a better time in my life! He was funny, attentive, courteous, the perfect gentleman, and down right fun. We went to dinner and talked about anything and everything - seemed to have a good deal in common -and then he took me to this dive Irish pub and we threw darts - something I had never done before! He was very competitive and I was lousy at darts.
However, I guess I really messed up because I was too honest (something else that is extremely important to me). He asked me how many dates I had gone on since my divorce. He was my first date in over 35years- guess I shouldn't have told him. According to him, it freaked him out! Said the idea of being the first guy I'd dated since my divorce was too much pressure. Come on...I was separated for 4 years and divorced for one. Well, I'm not sure what he thought or expected but he was a one date wonder. His Loss.
(Please feel free to leave me comments and explain what I am missing - what did his being my first date after the divorce have to do with anything?)
Oh well, moving right along to Guy # 2 - that's another post.
When I first started looking on-line,(kinda sounds like shopping for an item doesn't it) I was amazed at some of the pictures - some of these guys did not put their best photos on the website (or shudder to think... they did).
I was and still am somewhat shy about making the first contact - I know my friends are shaking their heads saying "what?" but it's true. In my day, the guy made the first move.
My first day on line, I had three guys contact me (my observations are based on their profiles).
Guy # 1- very attractive, sexy, educated, and could spell (for some reason spelling is very important to me). (true to his profile)
Guy # 2 - ok in the looks department, said he was educated, couldn't spell worth a flip (that bothered me -we'll get to him later).
Guy # 3- was a real biker dude - in looks, dress, and the pics of his harley, a little scary looking but came across as a big teddy bear (he still does).
Guy #1- Decided it would be a good idea to e-mail for a while before going out so we e-mailed - he made it very plain to me that he was not looking for marriage and had every intention of staying single FOREVER! Once I convinced him I felt the same way, we met for coffee and that was it. I didn't hear anything else from him. I was a little confused, couldn't quite understand what I had said or done wrong. So, I decided to e-mail one more time and basically told him I had enjoyed meeting him and that if he would like to make contact, I'd enjoy hearing from him.
He thought he had done or said something wrong and was glad that I had e-mailed him. We continued e-mailing and decided to go to dinner. Those were some of the funniest e-mails! I wish I could share them with you but ...
I will honestly say, I have never had a better time in my life! He was funny, attentive, courteous, the perfect gentleman, and down right fun. We went to dinner and talked about anything and everything - seemed to have a good deal in common -and then he took me to this dive Irish pub and we threw darts - something I had never done before! He was very competitive and I was lousy at darts.
However, I guess I really messed up because I was too honest (something else that is extremely important to me). He asked me how many dates I had gone on since my divorce. He was my first date in over 35years- guess I shouldn't have told him. According to him, it freaked him out! Said the idea of being the first guy I'd dated since my divorce was too much pressure. Come on...I was separated for 4 years and divorced for one. Well, I'm not sure what he thought or expected but he was a one date wonder. His Loss.
(Please feel free to leave me comments and explain what I am missing - what did his being my first date after the divorce have to do with anything?)
Oh well, moving right along to Guy # 2 - that's another post.
Sunday, February 28, 2010
On Line Selection
As I mentioned a friend suggested on-line dating and gave me a web address. She told me to just go check it out; what the heck, I could just see who was out there right?
I have found out I am very vain. Yep, I want to date a guy who looks good but at the same time old enough to remember JFK, the Viet Nam war, Janice Joplin and Bonanza. That my friends is not an easy find. Well, I started checking out guys - you look at a photo and decide if you want to know more and then you check out their profile. I really am vain - very picky!
Depending on how much you want to write, you either get a lot of info or just enough to make you want to learn more or NOT.
Ok, I am from the "old school" and have a difficult time making the first contact. Do I e-mail? Do I wink? or maybe if I check out his profile, he will see that and make contact with me. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. And yes, I have winked at a few - once by mistake - moved my mouse and hit that button in error.
Once a contact is made the e-mailing begins. I'll share more later.
I have found out I am very vain. Yep, I want to date a guy who looks good but at the same time old enough to remember JFK, the Viet Nam war, Janice Joplin and Bonanza. That my friends is not an easy find. Well, I started checking out guys - you look at a photo and decide if you want to know more and then you check out their profile. I really am vain - very picky!
Depending on how much you want to write, you either get a lot of info or just enough to make you want to learn more or NOT.
Ok, I am from the "old school" and have a difficult time making the first contact. Do I e-mail? Do I wink? or maybe if I check out his profile, he will see that and make contact with me. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. And yes, I have winked at a few - once by mistake - moved my mouse and hit that button in error.
Once a contact is made the e-mailing begins. I'll share more later.
News Year - New Experiences
In January I decided it was time to "stop eating my feelings" (I borrowed that saying from a friend) and get out and live life, again. I was married for 35years; separated for four years and divorced for one.
So, I got off the couch, stopped eating ice cream every night, put some Joe Cocker in the cd player and started dancing around the house - at least one hr every day - down 13 pounds and counting!
I'm no spring chicken - I didn't have a clue about meeting people. Do I just walk into a bar, order a drink and hope for the best? Not my style; not to mention one drink and I probably couldn't walk out of the place let alone make a wise decision. Friends setting me up -S-C-A-R-Y!!!
So, I sent a message to several of my girl friends on facebook. Most ignored me - they are married and perhaps the thought of suggesting ideas was a jinx? One suggested I go on-line (I'm still deciding if I should thank her)! I swore I would never do that - well, guess what...yep, I did.
Let me tell you, this has been something else - quite the experince. I will take this opportunity to share what goes on in the online dating world-from my prespective. Sometimes funny, sometimes scary, sometimes just down right -What Were You Thinking?
Did you like the web address? One of the guys I went out with actually made that the subject of an e-mail he sent to me. - more to come.
So, I got off the couch, stopped eating ice cream every night, put some Joe Cocker in the cd player and started dancing around the house - at least one hr every day - down 13 pounds and counting!
I'm no spring chicken - I didn't have a clue about meeting people. Do I just walk into a bar, order a drink and hope for the best? Not my style; not to mention one drink and I probably couldn't walk out of the place let alone make a wise decision. Friends setting me up -S-C-A-R-Y!!!
So, I sent a message to several of my girl friends on facebook. Most ignored me - they are married and perhaps the thought of suggesting ideas was a jinx? One suggested I go on-line (I'm still deciding if I should thank her)! I swore I would never do that - well, guess what...yep, I did.
Let me tell you, this has been something else - quite the experince. I will take this opportunity to share what goes on in the online dating world-from my prespective. Sometimes funny, sometimes scary, sometimes just down right -What Were You Thinking?
Did you like the web address? One of the guys I went out with actually made that the subject of an e-mail he sent to me. - more to come.
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